Thursday, July 16, 2009

more

Staying with the last blog's theme briefly:

My wife reminded me that the mental abuse is often as bad or worse than the physical abuse. Even in houses that are not "as bad," the mental abuse takes a long time to get over. And it is there.

My mom didn't like how I labeled these people in the beginning as fundamental baptist right-wing homeschoolers, because that is what she is. I am too. I thought I qualified them with the following statements. The reason I chose to describe them that way is because they are in our supposed circles. These things don't just happen in the trashy homes of the lost. These are the people we go to church with. And you don't know it. Yes, it happens outside our circle too, but it happens inside it.


Now, on to other things.

You may have noticed I added several links to others blogs and things on the side. I figure its about time I help people out that way, since they have been linking to me for forever.

I am sure a couple of those people are not active bloggers anymore, but still, their blogs are not deleted like some I have been following.

I would recommend google home page for everyone. You can have new headlines, weather forecasts, quotes, stocks, blog updater, etc. It is fantastic and it saves from clicking on everyone's blog every day. Anyone can use a google homepage. Create a google ID, and then customize the page. Then set it to your home page. Not hard.

I noticed people using the "follow" thing on the blogs. I think I'm going to try it and I'll give feedback on it.

I'll probably post more this afternoon. That is the other reason to have some plan for following blogs. Because if I post again this afternoon, and you haven't checked since yesterday evening, you are very likely to miss two posts -- this and the previous.

EDIT 1: I added actual blog snippets from other blogs so you can check out who has blogged if you stop here. I added a subscribe page, so if you RSS, you can subscribe easily, but that is about the same as what Google Reader does. I also added the follower link. This is all on the left sidebar, and you have to scroll to see it all.

EDIT 2: For some reason I couldn't add Patrick Rothfuss to the list of blogs. I did link his blog down below the others. It is worth keeping up on imho.

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

parents

Forget for a moment the parents we are generally familiar with and love. I want to write today about a world that is despicable. A world that is hard to imagine. Stories from this world are more weird than fiction. Rarely do you even see this world through the TV.

This is the world of fundamental baptist right-wing conservative homeschoolers. These parents that go to conferences and think they are "good people." These parents that don't understand how to love but only that their children reflect upon them, and everything revolves around them.

These parents strip any bit of decision making or freedom from their children. They cash their children's checks and take the money for their own. They buy a car to be used by their children and so it can be taken at a moment's notice. They pay for their child's phone so they can cut them off entirely. This does not end at the age of 18. Oh, no! They are in control until they decide to someone else is the one their child should marry.

Recently I was informed of a daughter whose house is worse than the one many of you are more familiar with in these manners. Physical abuse is common, and the house is ruled with an iron fist. If this was a country than people would be getting shot and/or tortured for missing curfew. At the moment this 18 year old girl is only a junior in high school. She has no money of her own (per the above) even though she has a job. And as far as I know she has only one real friend. To top it all off, her phone was taken away because she went to her friend for help. Now she is completely cut off. Completely. And she has already tried to kill herself once. Yeah. See? This isn't just some story that will always have a happy ending. She's considering it again, and she has no one to talk to.

But, and this is the part my wife really hates, she went and spoke to her pastor. She told him something. She explained stuff. Do you understand how hard it is for someone who has lived with this her whole life to not think it is normal? Do you understand the courage it takes to approach anyone, even a pastor?! I do. It took me forever to convince some people. Other people have promised each other they can't tell me what's going on anymore. If you honestly want to help, you will be cut off, because they are sure "It's not that bad."

The pastor told her she needed to submit. She was making a big deal out of this, and she needed to do what she was told. BAH!!! What is with pastors? Do they honestly think that children are out of control with blaming their parents ignorantly? Are pastors so ignorant of the teenagers in their congregation that they honestly think that these teens could bring these slanderous accusations easily? Pastors, take warning. You need to know your teens. It is not for the teen leader to know them. It is your flock.

This is the ehrm, fourth(?), pastor that I know of that has ignored such situations (not all the same). Why?!

Of course, this only places guilt on the pastor. It does not say that the situation would be any better if the pastor had done his job. No, because the parents, as upstanding members of the church and community, would lie to his face, and go home and beat their kids. Then the kids wouldn't speak up again. How dare they the first time. Prevent their dad from being a deacon in a Baptist church. They deserve whatever they get.

Of course, the daughter begins to question God. If her parents are, as everyone says they are, really godly people, then what kind of god is God? Does she want anything to do with Him? If everything in life is horrible and the only worldview that could ever correct that is run portrayed by horrible people, would life be worth living through? It seems that the only thing to prevent suicide is to be a Christian, but even then, many weak Christians might not make it through it either.

And what is it with homeschoolers being held back in these same circles? You don't want to lose control? Yeah, they can't run away with a year of school left. They won't make it anywhere.

My wife wants to rescue them all. She knows what it is like and wants to save them all. Unfortunately, they can't even be found or recognized. How do you find these kids? The preaching against this stuff is Amen'd by the guilty. They supposedly think they are doing right. And then they blow it and admit they have a small temper problem that they are working on, but "Nobody's perfect." "Everyone has skeleton's in their closet." What?! Really?! Is that how you think!? They quote verses for everything they do. They have a verse. They have a verse for that, and against that. AUGH!

I can't have everyone living with me. I can't. I have no room, and can't support them. On the other hand, I do have room, for 4-8 more, and we can live on Ramen and Mac and Cheese if we need to. Tuna is a good protein, and vitamins aren't too expensive considering what we get out of them. And we have water. Of course, I also have to be gone for the day, and don't have a job where I can supervise and be "dad" to all these people. Oh that I had a lot of money and a job where I worked at home. But, the desire to be rich really isn't mine anymore...

Everyone I know older & wiser would advise against it too. It is my wife's first instinct. It is all I have ever seen from my mom. It is often my instinct. Of course, I must care for my family first. But what is the difference between someone starting and living in an orphanage and caring for all those kids, than what I would be doing? God would provide. Ideally, it would only be one or two kids at a time. Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

I think I will leave other blog business for a different blog.

Please pray for our friend.

A couple links

I saw these and thought of all the writing aspirations in the family and figured I would link them.

http://greatcloud.wordpress.com/2009/07/13/what-you-need-to-know-to-write-a-novel-in-one-blog-post/

http://greatcloud.wordpress.com/2009/07/14/7-ways-to-market-your-book-or-build-a-platform/

Don't know how accurate or useful it really is, but maybe interesting to read.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

summer time

So, summer is half way over.

My vacation was great. I accomplished pretty much everything I had planned and more extra bonuses on top.

First, congratulations to my brother and his wife on being married! That was a great way to kick off the summer. There was time with family: brother, sisters, parents, cousins, uncles, aunts, grandma. There was lots of MTG, and some Street Fighter. I read two books and almost half way through one I had to leave in MI, and I plan on finishing another this week, and two more later this month. I played Volleyball and through around a football. I played lots of Playstation 2, and watched a view good movies. I won Dungeon Master and Chaos Strikes Back, and have started DMII. I attended a Tea Party, and yelled "Mike for Congress!" I went door-to-door in Belding and helped gather signatures. I put up my first real website. http://www.michaelvankleeckforcongress.com I went to Joe's wedding reception and I got in touch with some friends I hadn't seen in a long time.

I stopped by the school today and no one knew where my new textbooks are. I think I am going to try to get back in the gym and workout before school starts back up. Rent will be going up about $10-15 a month, which really isn't bad at all. But we have been thinking of looking for a house anyway, so we are still checking. We are catching up on sleep and slept in super late the other day...not sure how it happened.

Well, I'm not sure that I have any more to say...seems weird to say that.

I could blog about all the stuff that happened in more detail and stuff. . .but I don't think that it needs to be said. I'm considering building my own website now that I have a tad more experience.

That's it for now. I'm back in FL.

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

pride

When you argue with almost anyone, the whole argument is reduced from all the subtle points of either side to the pride of both debaters. It happens everywhere. When you argue with intellectuals, they are sure they are as smart as you, or have something to prove in their arena of study and so once they have taken a side, usually based on little or no data and much opinion, they proceed to defend it regardless of its actual strength or validity.

But this isn't just with those in intellectual circles. I have heard those that tend to sneer at the intellectuals doubt whether proven history actually took place because the place where they usually hear about it is from "those other people." These unlearned are proud that they have not pursued greater things. They hold to their ground as fiercely as anyone because they must not only prove their point but also that they as an unlearned have just as valuable a voice as the learned.

It is pride that gets in everyone's way. It is not a true seeking of truth. It is pride. I'm too proud to admit I am wrong. I'm too proud to admit their is value in pursuing the education you have pursued. I'm too proud to admit that you do not need my education to have a viable opinion. Pride gets in all of our way. Everyone is proud.

I was going to write an article once on Arminianism: The Christian's Pride. As Christians we need to have something we can boast about. Everyone wants to boast about something, so Arminians chose to boast about their free will.

Calvinists understand the futility of this, but then always find something else to boast in. We need to save that life because if we don't God can't do it. They don't say it like that, but that is the end result. They can boast that God needs them. It is up to them to ______. Foolishness.

Then, we see all of this pride and are proud that we are not misinformed like others. We are proud that we understand those hidden mysteries while others do not. We are proud of _____. You see? It goes on and on.

So, arguing is pointless, unless their are others around to hear. Further, it has never been our responsibility to change hearts. It hasn't. It is our responsibility to speak the truth, no matter how "pointless" it may seem. We speak the truth because the Word will never return void. We speak the truth because God can use it to minister how He sees fit. We argue for the people who are not pridefully stuck in the issue. Since they have not divulged their side, then they can listen and without hurting their pride they can change opinions when reasonable rational rhetoric has been presented.

I need to enhance my vocabulary. I have read and heard that a good way to do that is to read. I have read 2.5 books this summer. I have not felt my vocabulary being enhanced. Granted, the two I have actually finished were both fantasy fiction. The next three I finish will be theologically based, and so I should see some enhancement...right? Maybe I will gain something from the "Philisophical Word of the Day" blog I am following, or the Theological counterpart. . .maybe.

It is late and I should be in bed. However, the last three nights have all been late leading to sleeping in later, and creating an even later evening and so the cycle continues. I was in bed at 11:40 but alas, sleep escaped me, and so the cycle continues. Though, it isn't even 1:30 yet, and last night was 3.

Well, goodnight.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Spoken to Americans

"In the rise of your university education . . .; in the decentralized . . . character of your local governments; . . . in your championship of free speech, and in your unlimited regard for freedom of conscience; in all this . . . it is demonstrable that you owe this to Calvinism and to Calvinism alone."

-- Lectures on Calvinism by Abraham Kuyper

I want the book. I'm glad that I have found a desire to read. It is still hard at times. I have read 2 books through thus far this summer, and am working on two more with a 5th in the mail. Hopefully I can keep reading.

Sunday, June 14, 2009

Fundamentalism

The first time I heard the strong opposition which I now see much more wide spread was in my own home. Now, I am aware that there are many of my generation who look at the churches of America, or look at Fundamentalism and feel disgust. This is because of what has become popular from "Bible-thumpers."

Don't drink.
Don't smoke.
Don't dance.
Don't go to theater.
Don't get tattoos .
Don't get piercings.
Men's hair shouldn't touch their ears, or the collar of the neck.
Don't listen to rock/jazz/country/etc.

Well, isn't this what is preached? In some circles it is seen as churches preaching rules. Others see a slightly broader perspective and claim that this isn't happening outside fundamentalism and attribute this "rule preaching" to us. This is what makes the leaders worried. They think the movement is dying...in honesty, I have no reason to doubt them. I am not "up" on Fundamentalism. If the leaders are talking about whether it is going to survive, I'm pretty sure we can think about it that way.

Well, I think that its true that we preach that way. Somehow through the last several decades the church has grown lethargic. Pastors worry about their people and instead of trusting the Word of God to work in hearts they begin to preach more and more application. They see the types of activities that the unsaved are involved in, and preach against it. It doesn't help, so they continue to preach application, application, application. Instead of allowing the Spirit of God to work in the hearts through the power of the Gospel, they preach keeping rules. But then, the next generation does not know how to preach doctrine. They don't know how to preach the whole counsel of God. They only know to preach rules.

I'm not doubting any one's salvation, but instead of being able to handle strong meat, they struggle with anything but simple milk. The pastors see this, and probably partly in fear shy away from anything difficult. With so many pastors being kicked out of their churches why risk talking over their heads. Continue to preach the application/rules.

Of course, it would be wrong to assay that the decline of the church these past decades has been solely the fault of the elders. If the sheep had themselves kept to the word of God, if they had done their responsibility to live holy separated lives, if they had kept themselves unspotted from the world. In all, the church is at fault for the mess we are in. Whether you say "the church" or "fundamentalism" it doesn't matter. We are where we are through our own laziness and unbelief.

Something else that occurred to me earlier is that even if Fundamentalism as a movement died, it wouldn't phase little GFBC. In all likelihood, it would not phase Southshore Baptist Church. Fundamentalism will continue for years to come. At least for some years, since I am a fundamentalist. While there are not as many younger folk here in Edmore, there are enough in my generation within my family who are also Fundamentalists, who would continue to be so even if the movement just died. But that implies a movement can just die. I don't know much about movements, but I think that they slow down, rather than just fall over. I think Fundamentalism had a fiery start (wouldn't be a good movement without it), but its been a century almost. Of course it is waning. Multitudes have considered starting a new movement, but why start a new fire when you have coals still burning? Easier to stoke an existing fire. . .and that has been the conclusion often arrived at.

Still, many are leaving. They see the rule preaching, and in the foolishness of Rehoboam's counsellors, they perceive that in order to escape this they must abandon all they have been taught. They begin to build again the foundation testing every thought, every creed, every statement of faith. They want to preach Christ (to their credit), but they do so with the dropping of everything their parents held dear. Now, we must with Paul rejoice when Christ is preached and as I think of some whom I have seen leave MBBC and go to preach, though I wonder at their doctrine and liberality, I do believe that they can preach the Gospel. So, while I rejoice that the Gospel is going forth, I regret that it be with such means and accompanying stubble.

Who am I to judge? Most of you will know that I am often a quick judge (slowing down as I grow up, but often still quick). Is it my place to sit here and judge them? Why do I not look inward and judge? Simply put, I do. I know many of my faults and behind them I know lurk a multitude waiting to show themselves.

This does not neglect me however from seeing and commenting on the way the church is going. The church is the Bride of Christ. I was speaking with my cousins a few weeks back, and one of them brought this fact to my mind yet again. How can we look at our Lord's bride and see the weak, lazy, sin filled pews and not grieve? How can we not desire it to be spotless?

Side note: I hesitated significantly to even mention the church as Christ's bride. It is not a thought for loose consideration. My quick judgment judged me immediately. I fear to write because I fear that I will sound like some old reformed or puritan writer. That doesn't bother me. What does is that I will be judged because of that. I would rather that my words got across their meaning rather than people finding me falsely pious. But I mean no false piety. I believe what I write. . .It is just a hesitation that often besets me. I have found that as I age, I feel more inclined to use such terminology. I remember being afraid to speak my mind for fear I was copying others. But if I truly mean it, then why would I fear? The insecurities of being human, and a lack of trust in God. I find that I have often dumbed myself down, and now, when I reach for the right word it is well beyond my grasp. Something that I could not have seen coming, nor could I have prevented. It is still often subconscience and it stems from laziness.

The Puritans recorded their prayers, and they are read now giving insight into how these men thought and felt. But were someone to stand and open the worship of God in such a prayer, I think the church would be in shock. Perhaps it is my cynical judgmentalism.

I won't discuss the above mentioned rules. I may at some point. People put too much effort into following rules.

Every now and then someone will tell you something they have learned spiritually, and when you take that in sincerety it can be an incredible exhortation/encouragement. One of my cousins was entirely and Biblically convinced of something once. He was right, but at the time he told me it still had the hold on him that it was something to strive daily for. It made an impression. It is rare that something like that takes hold of me. I remember one time more vividly than any other. And it changed my life. Changed my actions. I had been saved for years, but this message opened my spiritual eyes. Anyway, back to my cousin. He told me that life was not about any of those rules. It was about a relationship with God. First, he said it and I said, "yes, you're right." Then he said it again, "No Dave[realizing that it wasn't just a fact for the mind], that is all that matters. Abraham was the friend of God." It doesn't sink in the first time. It probably didn't the second time. He told me several times. Those are the times when I see (I don't just know the definition in my head) what Christian fellowship and exhortation among the saints are. I see it. All of this due to the short sentence above: It isn't about rules. It isn't. Never has been, even back to Exodus 20. It isn't a secret either. It isn't some brilliant riddle that I uncovered and can now share with you. It is about a relationship. It is about faith. You all know this too. Oh, but how often I forget. What kind of relationship can you have with someone you barely talk to? I persuaded my father-in-law before he was such with just those words. I wasn't wrong then, nor am I now.